By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Naheed_Haq]Naheed Haq

Friendship is the most fabulous relationship of this world. It remains fresh like the cool morning breeze and clear like the flowing water of a stream. It has the power of protecting you against the harsh and rough gusts of the miseries and pains of life. A friend consoles when you are broken and shattered. He/she pulls you up when you need a push. A friend means a companion, a well wisher, a consoler, a guide, and helper.

The main components of friendship are love, care and trust, which determines all the assumed roles of a friend. It is basically a unique combination of all these three elements. They weave friendship into a single string of pure and glittering beads. Without them friendship is like an empty vessel. A friend is the one, who loves you, takes care of you and gives you confidence and trust.

Everyone longs for love. It is a feeling that even melts the most rigid hearts. We can persuade people better through love. It works as a soothing balm for the dejected souls.The love of friends is selfless. It doesn’t demand anything rather it gives a lot. It is this love that keeps friends bound. This love flourishes the bond of friendship. It gains everlasting strength and power.

Care is another component of friendship that further strengthens its edifice. It is the basic requirement of all human beings. Everyone needs to be looked after and pampered. Friends always care about you. They share your joys and sorrows. They provide you comfort with their presence and make you feel elevated and exalted. They are a constant source of delight for you. You share the same interests and hobbies. They illuminate your life with their witty remarks, naughty pranks and humorous stories. Friendship demands great care. You must care about the trivial needs of your friends and must make sure they are appropriately catered for. Good friends always sacrifice their interests for the interests of their friends. They are ready even to lose in order to make their friends win. They celebrate the most important occasions of your life like birthdays, New Year, cultural and religious festivals, valentines etc. all your celebrations are incomplete without them.

The most significant component of friendship is trust. It won’t be an exaggeration to say that it forms the base for good and everlasting friendship. Trust is faith. It determines the trustworthiness of someone you consider to be your friend. When you believe your friend, you trust him and it is this trust that encourages you to reveal and disclose even your top secrets to him. You prefer sharing your ideas, opinions and plans with your friends. You turn to them in times of trouble and turmoil. Lucky are those, who have trustworthy friends, who stand by them through thick and thin. Trust in friendship brings you closer to your friends and you never feel lonely when encountered by the tests and trials of life. Your heart remains contented that your friend would provide you comfort under the dense shady tree of his friendship. This trust makes your life easy.

Thus it can be concluded that friendship incorporates love, care and trust that make the most essential components of friendship.

Hi! This Naheed Haq from Pakistan. This is my article about friendship. I hope it will entertain my audience.

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The Deadbeat Dad List – How to Stay Off of It
By Vanessa Blais

Stay­ing off the dead­beat dad list doesn’t have to be, and cer­tainly should not be, a covert oper­a­tion to escape child sup­port debts. In the harsh eco­nomic cli­mate of the United States right now, it’s under­stand­able for any­one to suf­fer the effects of lay­offs and fir­ings, but whether a cou­ple is together or apart, once kids are involved, you pull together to make sure those kids are pro­vided for.

#1. Get rid of the neg­a­tive mind­set. The first indi­ca­tion that a father is a ‘dead­beat dad’ is when he utters the words, “I am not going to pay her bills.” Sim­ple math. Mom makes $24,000 a year, Dad makes $36,000 a year. That’s a com­bined income of $60,000 year when the fam­ily is ‘whole’ and the money goes into a ‘col­lec­tive pot.’ Divorce ensues, and IF Mom is awarded and does get, 1/3 of Dad’s income for ‘sup­port’ that only equates to $12,000 in addi­tion to her $24,000, now giv­ing her only $36,000 a year on which to raise her chil­dren.

This may seem like enough money to raise a child on, but when you con­sider that the fam­ily based their mortgage/rent, car pay­ments, etc, on what they could afford BEFORE the break up, and you see that there is a $40,000 loss to the fam­ily as a whole, dev­as­ta­tion like fore­clo­sure and repossession become a loom­ing real­ity, and unex­pected and unforeseen cat­a­stro­phes no longer have the ben­e­fit of that addi­tional $40,000 year. You are not pay­ing “HER” bills, you are pro­vid­ing for your child.

It could be argued that Mom, or Dad, who­ever the cus­to­dial par­ent is, can down­size to a more afford­able home, and in some cases, that might be in everyone’s best inter­est. BUT, if the chil­dren are in school and have friends in the neigh­bor­hood, it might not be in their best inter­est to cre­ate yet another upheaval in their life. After all, they have just suf­fered a loss from the divorce and they are grieving and have had enough turmoil.

#2. It’s about the kids. It’s not about her, it’s not about you. It’s about THE KIDS. See last para­graph of #1. If you can’t find a job, and she can’t find a job, you make arrange­ments to help each other with child care trade-offs, and with help­ing each other find ways to make money with­out a job.

#3. Goes back to rule #2, find cre­ative ways to make money. The United States is one of the eas­i­est places in the world to become an entre­pre­neur, and the Inter­net has pro­vided no short­age of oppor­tu­ni­ties to do so. One father, who pays his child sup­port on time, had to move to another state for his job. He went out and started col­lect­ing stuff that peo­ple were giv­ing away on Craigslist and sell­ing it on Craigslist, hav­ing garage sales every week­end, and even sell­ing stuff on eBay, just to have the extra money he needed for gas just to drive to exer­cise his vis­i­ta­tion with his daughter.

#4. Don’t pun­ish. Often­times, a par­ent will attempt to do things to ‘pun­ish’ the other par­ent. Look you prob­a­bly both did a lot wrong in the rela­tion­ship. Get over it. The kids deserve the best life that TWO par­ents can give them. They don’t deserve to suf­fer the wrath you have against the other par­ent. It not only hurts them, it makes you look like a sociopath.

#5. And this goes to both par­ents… you need to work together. I real­ize that if you could do that, odds are, you wouldn’t have split in the first place, but think about this… because of your imma­ture deci­sions to divorce, you chil­dren are already suf­fer­ing. Don’t make it any worse. They deserve so much more.

The deadbeat dad list is one that no one, man or woman, should ever be on. When you are lying on your deathbead, about to meet your maker, you are not going to be thinking, “I wish I could have done my kids other parent more harm.” You are going to think to yourself, “I wish I had been a better parent.” Be the best parent you can be. Take care of the kids. It’s more than not paying support that can make you a deadbeat dad.

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